Oprah has talked about aha moments on her show and podcasts and she often asks her guests if ever they have had one. An aha moment is a time in your life when you come to a sudden realisation about something. In the past twelve months I have had three of these aha moments and these are the lessons I have learned.
Listening to your heart will never fail you (even when it’s not logical)
The last time I regretted something was when I chose the logical option over following my heart. By disregarding logic and following my heart I managed to travel to the other side of the world with next to nothing to my name, fall for a guy that lived six hours away (and have the time of my life in the process), and get that job I felt was too good to be true.
Logic is a good thing to follow in life or death situations, however it’s the decisions made from logic that have driven me up the wall and left me pondering the “what ifs”. Some of the unhappiest people I know choose logic over following their hearts (despite how they may present themselves) and I can happily say that I am no longer one of them.
Leave ego at the door if you want a successful relationship.
Relationships soon become friendships if you don’t allow yourself to connect deeply with your partner. If you try to hide the bad things there will be an imbalance, and the same goes vice versa. The game of cat and mouse can be exciting at the beginning but after a while it gets old. If you don’t know where you stand in a relationship you’ll eventually opt to leave.
People with huge egos have the desire to be right no matter how small the situation is and it becomes exhausting. By following your ego you choose having your own way over peace and you eventually end up with neither. Seek peace and compromise in your relationship. Leave your ego at the door.
Your problems will follow no matter where you go in the world.
The problems you had back home will still be there waiting for you no matter where you go in the world. You can only bury your problems for so long before they creep out of the shadows and suckerpunch you in the face.
For so long I ignored my past problems and acted as if they’re no longer part of me. Whenever something big or small happened I experienced a Britney Spears 2007 meltdown and everything felt like the end of the world. Guess what? It’s not. It’s important to confront your problems instead of running from them.